becozy Posted September 12, 2008 Report Share Posted September 12, 2008 from the October MH article... be sure to pick up a copy on news-stands, mass merchandisers and book-sellers in the U.S... BEAT STRESS FOR GOOD Pressure comes in many forms - an apporoaching deadline, a crazy travel schedule, a job search in a tough economy. Taking big risks has taught Gerard Butler a few things about maintaining his calm. Borrow his 4-step plan. STEP 1 LET GO OF WHAT YOU CAN'T CONTROL "I have a very complex process for taking the pressure off myself. It starts with me saying, 'I can only do what I can do.'" It's not just a matter of recognizing your limitations, says Butler. It's recognizing that you can't affect every outcome, and letting go of those that are out of your control. STEP 2 DON'T HOLD BACK WITH THE STUFF YOU CAN CONTROL The trick isnt to avoid work, but to avoid stress, says Butler. "When I'm working, that's on my mind all the time, the faith that has been granted to me by people, the money that has been spent. It seems the best thing I can do to honor it is to work my butt off." STEP 3 MAKE TIME FOR R&R - REST AND RECREATION "I don't want to abuse my success, so I don't go out partying all the time. i try to get as much rest as I can" Nor does he sacrifice his workout. "When I'm working in a new place, I'm always thinking, Okay, where are the trails? Where can I go hiking and running?" STEP 4 REMEMBER WHERE YOU STARTED "I try to love where I am and what I'm doing. I see it as an honor to do what I do for a living." says Butler. It takes an incredible amount of work to achieve your goals: that should be a source of great pride during your most stressful times. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egyptian Girl Posted September 12, 2008 Report Share Posted September 12, 2008 Really great advice!!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donnie Posted September 12, 2008 Report Share Posted September 12, 2008 Thank you for posting it!!! Really great and wise advice! He is such a wonderful man!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Celtic Star Posted September 12, 2008 Report Share Posted September 12, 2008 it shows he has a very self awareness and realizes what he's very capable of doing or what will hurt him great advice Gerry! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
celticgirl Posted September 12, 2008 Report Share Posted September 12, 2008 He is a very smart man and great workd to live by. Thanks Gerry, I think I will have to try this for myself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Avivid Mind Posted September 12, 2008 Report Share Posted September 12, 2008 Always nice to meet another kindred spirit. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted September 12, 2008 Report Share Posted September 12, 2008 Insight, wisdom, intelligence, a beautiful soul, the eyes of an angel and a body like Michelangelo's David... Literally, the stuff of dreams... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RamsayGirl Posted September 12, 2008 Report Share Posted September 12, 2008 I die of desire to read the interview but in Spain they don´t edit the same version of Men's Health (happened the same with the previous reportage). If a charitable soul will send to me the scans for PM... P.S. I hope not to be committing an infraction asking for this favor. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dragon Slayer Posted September 12, 2008 Report Share Posted September 12, 2008 Wow! I can see the success Gerry has had with his spiritual quest. He doesn't sweat the small stuff and lets go of the uncontrollable. He seems at peace with himself. I'm going to share this advice with others I know that need it. Thanks, Barb! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phoenixgirl Posted September 12, 2008 Report Share Posted September 12, 2008 This is one of the best interviews yet. You can tell that his soul searching and spiritual journey is paying off. I'm so happy for him. I've always found Gerry to be wise and it's due to his "advice" that I have tried to follow my dreams, refused to be miserable for the rest of my life and am trying to move ahead. I actually have a lot in common with him in his past and thoughts and the way we deal with life. So, now that Gerry has found a way to deal with stress in his hectic life (way more stressful and hectic than my life could ever be), I now have even more Gerry-isms to help guide me. I have a picture of Gerry and a quote of his (from a while ago) next to where I write so I can remember why I made the changes in my life that I did. Okay, this all sounds a little gospel-ish, but I don't mean it that way. I simply mean that because I've been through a lot of similar things in my past that Gerry has and see how successful he is in his life, I believe that when he gives advice on how to live I can listen to that advice and it helps me. Thank you for typing those up, by the way. Very much appreciated. Lisa Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shirsan Posted September 12, 2008 Report Share Posted September 12, 2008 I die of desire to read the interview but in Spain they don´t edit the same version of Men's Health (happened the same with the previous reportage). If a charitable soul will send to me the scans for PM... P.S. I hope not to be committing an infraction asking for this favor. If you will PM me your address I will send you a copy if I can get one. They are not out here yet. I'm checking every day.Sandy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cassie Posted September 12, 2008 Report Share Posted September 12, 2008 *SIGH* Cassie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shirsan Posted September 12, 2008 Report Share Posted September 12, 2008 He is as wise as he is intelligent and beautiful. That's why I love him absolutely. Can't wait for this artlcle, to get to read it all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ladyfran Posted September 12, 2008 Report Share Posted September 12, 2008 Great insightfulness coming from an amazing man! Frannie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sunbeach Posted September 12, 2008 Report Share Posted September 12, 2008 That is one of the best articles I have read, he has worked really hard to keep his life on track, nice to hear Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SouthernGirl28 Posted September 12, 2008 Report Share Posted September 12, 2008 Thanks for sharing! There's alot of truth to his 4 step process. I need to pick the magazine up April Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gerry Duty Posted September 12, 2008 Report Share Posted September 12, 2008 Great article!!! I have always managed not to hold onto things that I cannot control, I learned that the hard way. This is what makes Gerry such a great man, his soul is amazing! Cannot wait to read the whole article! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BaileyS Posted September 12, 2008 Report Share Posted September 12, 2008 He is a really interesting guy! Could you imagine being on a trail and finding him there?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HazelEyes Posted September 12, 2008 Report Share Posted September 12, 2008 GULP. He is so lovely and amazing and insightful. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 12, 2008 Report Share Posted September 12, 2008 beautiful words! I cant wait to read the entire article either, someone picked up a copy 4 me. Im afraid of letting go of things I cant control, I might lose my zany personality and unusual perspective on things! looool! joking thanks 4 posting Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MoAnamCara Posted September 13, 2008 Report Share Posted September 13, 2008 Thanks so much for that piece of "the" article. I rarely get out of my house due to anxieties and know that Gerry's 4 steps are indeed very wise. I remember when he was on Jay Leno once and when Jay asked him what he was like as a kid, the first thing Gerry thought of to say was to tell him that he had many anxieties. Remember the story of when he was shopping for shoes or being sent to the store for a certain amount of parafin? It sounded so much like me as a child - I was petrified of any activity (outside my home) that involved my participation (school was hell!). Fortunately, Gerry chose a profession where he MUST face his anxieties every day and, unfortunately, I did not. Time to work a bit harder with those 4 steps!!! If Gerry can do it, I can do it! GBYD (God bless your day) Mo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BaileyS Posted September 13, 2008 Report Share Posted September 13, 2008 Thanks so much for that piece of "the" article. I rarely get out of my house due to anxieties and know that Gerry's 4 steps are indeed very wise. I remember when he was on Jay Leno once and when Jay asked him what he was like as a kid, the first thing Gerry thought of to say was to tell him that he had many anxieties. Remember the story of when he was shopping for shoes or being sent to the store for a certain amount of parafin? It sounded so much like me as a child - I was petrified of any activity (outside my home) that involved my participation (school was hell!). Fortunately, Gerry chose a profession where he MUST face his anxieties every day and, unfortunately, I did not. Time to work a bit harder with those 4 steps!!! If Gerry can do it, I can do it! GBYD (God bless your day) Mo I completely understand. That is how I am now!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beejay Posted September 13, 2008 Report Share Posted September 13, 2008 I bought the magazine today at Barnes & Noble. What a guy our Gerry is. Reading those 4 items has made me want to read the entire article. As soon as I finish cleaning out my emails, I'm getting busy on that article. Barbara Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GBPhanatic Posted September 14, 2008 Report Share Posted September 14, 2008 There are so many actors today that are one diminsional. They are all looks on the outside but have no depth, no special character. If they are attractive on the outside, and have no substance on the inside, then it kills their looks. Just another "pretty face". Then they can get up on the big screen and do what someone else tells them to do and that's about it. This is why I love this man! He's multi layed, beautifully flawed and his soul runs deep. When I say "flawed", I mean it in a good way. He's had his vices, and probably still has some, but he doesn't claim to be perfect. No one is nor do they want that responsibility. When you admire and love someone, you love them, flaws and all because that's what makes them who they are, you accept them as they are completely. I admire anyone who can see for themselves that something they are doing is wrong or bad for them and just stop it, no help from anyone, like he did with his drinking and I had heard that he quit smoking as well. I also love the way he recognizes that the demands on his life right now are not condusive to maintaining a committed relationship romanitcally. So many of those relationships in Hollywood come and go. I can see Gerry being the kind of guy that when he makes up his mind to settle down, he will be very selective and it will be a final one and done with much thought and when the time is the right time. That will be one lucky lady! The roles he's played tells us exactly all about who Gerry Butler is really. He hasn't been type casted yet and hopefully won't ever be. I had heard that Andrew Lloyd Webber was writing a sequel to Phantom and was considering our boy to play the Phantom again. Hopefully, if he gets it to the stage, then on to the screen again, Gerry will be the one to do it. I don't think anyone else could play that role. That's the character whom I most identify him with. He's imposing, powerful, and dangerous but is also sensitive, sensual and passionate and don't forget extremely talented and wants only to be loved, after all. But just like the rest of us, he has his imperfections and his fears and he hides them behind a mask, his joking around and his candid, shoot from the hip, attitude. All of that, and then that wonderful outer package ain't too shabby either. That is indeed, in my mind, my idea of the perfect man! Thanks, GALS, for letting me ramble on! D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kanga Posted September 14, 2008 Report Share Posted September 14, 2008 There are so many actors today that are one diminsional. They are all looks on the outside but have no depth, no special character. If they are attractive on the outside, and have no substance on the inside, then it kills their looks. Just another "pretty face". Then they can get up on the big screen and do what someone else tells them to do and that's about it. This is why I love this man! He's multi layed, beautifully flawed and his soul runs deep. When I say "flawed", I mean it in a good way. He's had his vices, and probably still has some, but he doesn't claim to be perfect. No one is nor do they want that responsibility. When you admire and love someone, you love them, flaws and all because that's what makes them who they are, you accept them as they are completely. I admire anyone who can see for themselves that something they are doing is wrong or bad for them and just stop it, no help from anyone, like he did with his drinking and I had heard that he quit smoking as well. I also love the way he recognizes that the demands on his life right now are not condusive to maintaining a committed relationship romanitcally. So many of those relationships in Hollywood come and go. I can see Gerry being the kind of guy that when he makes up his mind to settle down, he will be very selective and it will be a final one and done with much thought and when the time is the right time. That will be one lucky lady! The roles he's played tells us exactly all about who Gerry Butler is really. He hasn't been type casted yet and hopefully won't ever be. I had heard that Andrew Lloyd Webber was writing a sequel to Phantom and was considering our boy to play the Phantom again. Hopefully, if he gets it to the stage, then on to the screen again, Gerry will be the one to do it. I don't think anyone else could play that role. That's the character whom I most identify him with. He's imposing, powerful, and dangerous but is also sensitive, sensual and passionate and don't forget extremely talented and wants only to be loved, after all. But just like the rest of us, he has his imperfections and his fears and he hides them behind a mask, his joking around and his candid, shoot from the hip, attitude. All of that, and then that wonderful outer package ain't too shabby either. That is indeed, in my mind, my idea of the perfect man! Thanks, GALS, for letting me ramble on! D Not a bad ramble, sums up exactly my take on Gerry too and it is why I love him so. He speaks to my heart, my body and my soul. And he loves hiking one of my favourite things to do. Woohoo!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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